My view on body image.

‘Am I healthy for my body type?’

Hello all,

Recently I have been seeing a lot of accounts, Instagram and Twitter, talking about body image and mental health. There have been some embracing curves, some showing off their toned physiques and others sharing some very hard truths about their struggles with body image.

All these accounts have got me thinking about social media and how body image is portrayed. My personal belief is that everyone has different body types and all should be embraced, as long as they are healthy. I would like to point out that although I am definitely pro this point, I struggle with my own body image and am definitely in the majority that looks at models and fitness accounts and thinks ‘if only’. I would like to point out that I am aware that there are different causes for eating disorders and body image struggles, I am merely focusing on social media due to its prominence in our lives.

As much as I enjoy reading different people’s stories and journeys it really saddens me that people will voice their opinion in the wrong way. Yes, everyone is entitled to an opinion and it is, in most circumstances, good that everyone has their own mind but the comments people make on accounts or images based on body image really truly shocked me. An account I follow features a curvy girl, hips, boobs and bum, a Kim Kardashian type figure, the desirable hourglass. Yet the comments I saw featured the words fat, unhealthy, lazy and disgusting. Flip this over to another account featuring a girl documenting her struggle with anorexia and people are telling her that she needs to be a better role model like she used to be, she needs to eat more and stop struggling against her feeds, she’s too skinny. WHAT??? I am so disappointed in the people posting these comments that it genuinely made me angry and upset. I started thinking about my body image and my thoughts.

I am a petite 5,2-3 and have an hourglass figure. I have boobs and smaller waist, bigger hips, and not a massive bum. There are, of course, things I really want to change, mostly tone up my stomach and bum so I feel more comfortable in myself. I am not fat but I am by no means toned, yet it has taken me a long time to truly believe this myself. It is then it struck me that for me and my body I am bigger than I used to be and than I have been. This just means that I need to put more work into my body and do more exercise. It then of course dawned on me that instead of promoting a certain body type and portraying a version of ‘healthy’ the media and clothing brands should be portraying healthy figures as we all come in different shapes and sizes.

For those who are struggling with their body image because they think they are too fat or too thin, look at yourself and ask ‘am I healthy for my body type?’ That is the question we should be thinking about. My sister for example is taller, skinny and is pretty much straight with a good bum. Some people have said she’s too skinny, however, she has always been like this, she eats, she loves chocolate and is perfectly healthy for her and her body type.

My point being is that there are girls and men alike who are naturally more curvy, bigger, smaller, skinnier, taller, and quite frankly are body types we can’t have. For example I will never be able to be my sisters body type, I am simply not built like that, although I wish I had her bum it is just no possible for me to become as skinny as she is and if I ever could I think I would look ridiculous! Just the same as she can’t magically move her hip bones to make them similar to mine. IT JUST WON’T HAPPEN!

Of course we all have days where we look at ourselves and thing ERGH! but I want you to go away from this post and think ‘am I healthy for me?’. If the answer is yes then good! If the answer is no then think sensibly about what you need to do, do you need to eat more? do you need to balance your diet more? exercise? It’s important to recognize what you need to do for you, not what is portrayed in the media.

For me my fitness journey begins with a small amount of cardio then toning up the areas I wish could be better for my figure. I eat a balanced diet but do snack a lot so I will try to cut as many snacks out of my daily routine. I also like pizza way too much so that will be monitored too! Maybe I’ll buy one instead of getting a Dominoes πŸ˜‰

What do you guys think of this? Do you agree?


The Optimistic Diaries| Week 11

Hello all,

I hope your week as been ok. I can’t believe I am on week 11 already! I feel as though it was only a few days ago that I decided to launch this series on my blog! Overall this week hasn’t been too bad, although I have struggled more to stay positive.

The beginning of the week was pretty good, I saw my boys and they had a good clean out!

I have also been cooking this week and have made a Corned Beef Hash, Jelly and a Bacon and Broccoli Macaroni. I was pretty pleased with myself!

Mid week came the onset of the usual self doubt and life doubt in general and although the week in general wasn’t bad I did struggle with staying positive. I tried to enjoy things as much as I could, seeing my partner and boys a couple of evenings and spending more time with my family in the evenings.

The weekend wasn’t too bad, I spent it with my partner at his and Friday evening we went to the pub with his parents which was fun! Saturday evening I had dinner with my family as my mum made a dinner for a St. Patrick’s day tribute, mostly for my granddad as he was Irish. The meal was lovely, beef cooked in Guinness with mashed potato with greens and spring onion (I can’t remember what the Irish name for this was…) and a Mango and White Chocolate homemade cheesecake for dessert!

Sunday I ended up needed an emergency trip to the shops for some jeans! I had a moment in the dressing room where I realised that I should really start exercising again…yes I did do a post saying I will be starting a regime a few months ago… no I never started it… As a result of my changing room incident I have vowed to start which I am hoping to do tomorrow once I get my weights. I have already started drinking more water with lemon slices so hopefully this time I will be able to keep you updated!

What have you guys been up too?


Long distance relationship | Date night ideas!

Hello all,

Being in a long distance relationship can be hard. Sometimes it can feel like a friendship more than a relationship, mostly I guess because the physical activities are a no go zone, unless you can meet up often.

With this in mind I thought I’d share some ideas for how to create your own date nights to make sure you still do these kinds of activities together.

Skype and Facetime play a big part in being able to see each other, sometimes Skype is nicer as you can share screens with each other and also split screen so you can do multiple things at once. One of the things me and my partner do is to watch something together, whether that be a film, TV show or just a video on YouTube, its nice to be able to do something we would normally do when we are actually together. Set aside an evening and plan what you are going to watch as, if you are anything like me and my partner you will spend half the evening actually deciding what to watch!

Play a game together! Some apps on the iPhone allow you to send each other ‘play requests’ so games like solitaire, 2042 etc can actually be played together for a bit. Although I have to say they can finish really quickly as you don’t get the same options as the single player!

Do a common interest together. Again Skype or Facetime is useful here! Me and my partner often listen to music and colour/draw at the same time. This is something we both enjoy in the evenings and is quite relaxing! Again set a day and time and spend a few hours with no phones (except whatever you are using to see each other on…) and just spend some time doing what you both like. It can be really relaxing and hilarious if you end up singing really badly like me…

Setting a full-blown date night! And I mean the works, pizza, sweets, popcorn the lot! Set up your room so its nice and cozy, snuggle up in some pj’s and enjoy! Me and my partner have done this and both ordered a dominoes before for the same time and watched a couple of films throughout the evening. We did exactly what we would do if we meet up and spend a night in together. Doing the full blown thing will help to make you feel closer to each other and make it feel more like an occasion.






The Optimistic Diaries | Week 10

Hello all!

It’s week ten already….wow!

This week has been a positive one for me and one that I have really enjoyed overall. I went back to my Uni days to Luton to visit my best friend and we had a lot of fun.

Monday was fairly chilled and I tidied away and unpacked more stuff, so not much to report here! Tuesday saw me unpack more stuff but also allowed me to see my two little boys who are staying at my partners house, we had lots of cuddles and it was a relief to see them, even if one of them was on a hunger strike on his dried food, which I am pleased to report has finished!

Wednesday was packing day! And skipping to the evening and when my friend came to pick me up. The way back we did what we always do, play music and sing really loudly to songs which are probably really ‘uncool’ for us to listen too…because it was so late by the time we got back we just went to sleep! Thursday morning came and my little niece Millie (her dog) came bounding in straight up onto the bed for some good old morning cuddles. Croissants swiftly followed then the rest of the day was spent walking around town and getting food for our meals we had planned. 

Friday morning she treated me to a cheeky and very naughty breakfast at Cream’s which is a dessert place. and in true tradition we spent the rest of the day having a wander round the town looking in all the shops and of course getting excited about various makeup finds. The evening consisted of Dr Strange, Pizza and makeup, a very good evening in my opinion! 

Saturday, apparently turned out to be our day of rest and was spent in pj’s watching the Riverdale series on Netflix and eventually getting a McDonald’s drive thru….yes we were still in our pj’s! That evening was the sad time for me to leave but surprisingly I was able to hang onto the fact that we had had a really good few days and still had our own version of careoke to do.

Sunday was more chilled and I got to see my partner and my boys who thankfully got a clean out and a few treats from me!

Some may think that week 10 has been more of an ‘escape’ week and maybe that is right, but at the same time I feel as though having that break from everything has made me feel more refreshed and prepared to get on with the things I need to do in this coming week.

I can’t say that I feel completely proud of myself as I think week 10 was easier to be more positive, it was busy, fun and tiring but in a good way, although I am trying my best to carry this into week 11 with all the gusto I can manage!

How have your weeks been?


The Optimistic Diaries | Week 9

Hello all,

Week 9 started off more positive. I planned the main job I wanted to achieve for that day and accomplished the ones I set out to do! I did do a more in depth blog pot on this which you can see here.

I found the end of the week a lot harder as I moved back home Saturday. Packing everything up obviously isn’t fun but it was hard too as I almost felt as though I had failed being able to live my own life. I felt as though I wasn’t good enough and also felt like a burden on both my parents and my partners parents as they said my two little guinea pigs could stay in their garden.

Despite it being pretty rough (and feeling rough!) I am still trying to force myself to think on the positive side and although it has been much harder I have managed to find some. First off I have managed to have a clear out of my stuff and usually I find clear out’s hard as I get attached to things. I was pretty proud of myself as I managed to chuck a fair few bits out and set separate my attachment issues! I’m also pleased that my boys are staying with my partner as although I know he’d prefer not to he looks after them very well and I know they will be well looked after! Another positive I found is that I will be able to spend more time with my parents and sister which will be nice.

I am trying to stay positive and find good points in everything and was pleased that I could find a few good things in something bad.

How have your weeks been? Hope you are all ok.


My BIG March 2017 Goal

“Look for something positive in each day, even if some days you have to look a little harder” – Quote from IQ Mag, does not have a name.

Hello all!

For the past week or so I have been getting ready to move back home. Yes I know…again…but unfortunately things are just not working out the way I want them too. It was put to me the other day that in a way I set myself up to fail sometimes as I expect things to be bigger than they are, or I expect myself to already to be able to do these things etc. What I mean by this is that I expect myself to be further along or for something to go a certain way so when it either doesn’t or I can’t fulfill something I am instantly disappointed.

Every morning for the past week I have been waking up and thinking about what needs to be done on that day and what I can leave for later. For example today I planned that I would clean my little boys out before the move so that they are all clean when they also move with me. This was an event in itself as, whilst I was cleaning the second hutch out my little Percy fell behind the hutch. I spent the next hour lead on the sofa with him as he was shaken but luckily not hurt and was going for all the cuddles he could get out of me! It dawned on me that you can’t plan for something to go a certain way/expect it to as there are so many factors out of your control.

Percy getting his cuddles in!
Thus from this point on I shall wake up in the morning and plan the things I need to get done, starting with the most important first. However, whilst I plan these things I will remind myself that I may not be able to do them all and actually I my need a little help here and there. This March I will not set myself up to fail (or try not to anyway!). Instead I shall take things as they come and not expect too much of both myself or the situation. In addition I will continue with my ‘optimism challenge’ and try to look at the positives.

Have you guys got any plans for March? What do you want to achieve this year?

The Optimistic Diaries | Week 8

Hello all,

Week 8 has been a mediocre week, pretty chilled as well as being relatively productive. I have enjoyed doing the little things this week and have actually really enjoyed spending the time on my own as well as face timing my partner and best friend. There have been a few moments where I have thought ‘what’s the point?’ but overall I have found the joy in little things such as finishing my book and doing some colouring.

The start of the week I started to sort out all the junk in my room ready for the move back home at the end of the week. I got rid of a lot of old beauty stuff and was pretty proud of myself as for some reason I get attached to things easily so getting rid of stuff is hard! I didn’t do as well with my clothes but I am determined to go back through them and get rid of more were I can. I also managed to finish a double spread colouring pattern and I really like the way it turned out. I also finished my book American Psycho which I really enjoyed but found it very different to the crime novels I normally read which felt good to read something different to what I normally do.

Mid week I also treated myself to a Lush bath and used the twilight bath bomb as it is one of my favorites!

Since I am moving at the end of Feb I won’t be with my boys 24/7 so I have been making the most of my time with them. There have been a few days this week where they have wanted a lot of cuddles, which I am more than happy to give! Below is a picture of Diesel, I tucked him up in my hoodie and stroked his head and he actually went off to sleep! I felt pretty good about this as it is rare that Guinea Pigs shut their eyes as naturally they are very alert. I thought he looked soooo cute and luckily I managed to get a picture!

One of my favourite moments with my other Guinea Pig, Percy is when I was led on my bed and he came over and cuddled up to me, he himself went off to sleep for a bit but I never got chance to get a picture!

The end of my week was slightly less positive as my skin isn’t amazing at the moment, I’m assuming this is due to stress but we shall see! I did however, see my friend and enjoy some cups of tea and donuts….ooppsss! In addition I also managed to finish another colouring pattern, this time a more simple one but I liked the end result nonetheless. I did the majority of this whilst watching re-runs of Police Interceptors which I have always enjoyed.

My partner came to visit me Sunday so this rounded off my week nicely as it was lovely to see him which felt really positive.

Week 9 will give me a challenge with moving back home as I feel pretty mixed about this, however I am trying to stay positive about it as it will mean I can see my family and partner more. It will also hopefully give me the opportunity to progress in my career.

I hope your week has been good and I wish you all the best for this week!

The best hot drinks for winding down

I am such a hot drink person, I love tea and have pretty much any tea you could want, mint, green, normal, fruity, the lot! This also extends to hot chocolates and other hot drinks too and since I normally have one tucked up in bed I thought why not do a post on it! 

To start with tea. It was really hard choosing tea as I have so many but the ones I tend to go for in the evenings are either a lady grey or the chamomile and spice apple or cherry and cinnamon but I don’t have a box for this! I find these teas in particular warming and calming and help to chill me out in the evenings whilst I’m reading or watching YouTube. 

Next up are my Horlicks. My all time favourite is the chocolate one as it’s not really chocolatey but is creamy and light, the original horlicks I also like and tastes like you are having a bowl full of non chocolate coated malteasers! I also find these calming but also because they are thicker than tea more filling so they leave you feeling satisfied. 

I don’t normally drink these before bed but I thought I’d chuck them in for the coffee lovers amongst you! I really like lattes but I couldn’t see a decaf version, however I put some milk in this to make it creamier and since they’re decaf they won’t make you buzz before bed! Unless of course you are effected by sugar…

Hot chocolate….boy do I have and have tried soooo many! I used to have a coconut one which was really nice too but I used it! My all time favourite was the Turkish delight one but it was limited edition πŸ˜” my next one is the white chocolate options as it’s creamy but not too thick so it’s not sickly! I’m not a big white chocolate fan so this surprised me…. the sachets I get to try flavours, the cherry one is again a favourite but they seemed to have stopped doing that one now…ggrrrr! The others I really like too although I find the salted caramel one heavier than the others so I’m more selective about when I have these. Hot chocolate is one of those things that just puts you in a cozy mood I think, when it’s cold or you want to snuggle up they tend to be on the menu and that’s exactly what mood they put me in, I normally snuggle in a blanket and enjoy one of these before bed and feel sleepy and full after! 

So these are my go to relaxing drinks, what are yours? Do you have something you do to chill out before bed? Let me know! 

The Optimistic Diaries | Week 7

This last week has been a big week of decisions and has felt like a productive one which has been a nice change and has also allowed me to try and stay more positive. 

My big decision has been whether to move back home with my family again. My situation has meant that it will be a struggle to stay where I am and I’ve slowly realised that there aren’t as many career opportunities for me in the area I’m in. This means that yes I am moving home over the next few weeks or so which is sad as I’ll miss the people up here and being with my boys 24/7. My partners parents have however allowed them to stay in their garden, for which I will always be grateful for. 

This week I have seen a lot of one of my old work colleagues and we get on so well it has been nice enjoying cups of teas and painting nails! She’s even taken me out for lunch and we had a cheeky burger! Definitely yum! I’ve also enjoyed some time alone during the evenings and have had a lot of FaceTime sessions with my best friend. We also had a mini date and watched Anastasia….no judging we are adults…..

I have also enjoyed the time with my boys this week although one of them managed to wind himself so I placed him on a watch in my room! He did enjoy the extra cuddles….

Overall it’s been a nicer week so far and I’m hoping it will carry on! 

The Optimistic Diaries | Week 6

Hello all,

This week I have found it easier to think of the positives in things. My week started off fairly well, on Monday I managed to conquer a walk into town and get myself a Costa for the journey back. I had a Chai Latte (my favourite) and I even got one of the Christmas cups, a super cute penguin!

Tuesday-Thursday evening I was alone as my landlord was out and whilst I thought I’d be bored and have no one to talk to I actually really enjoyed watching re runs of police interceptors and other police shows whilst taking part in blogger chats on twitter and even face timing my best friend for a few hours.

Wednesday I did feel less positive but I saw one of my old work colleagues for some tea and a good old chat which perked me up. For the rest of the week I focused on my blog posts and come Friday I was really looking forward to the weekend as My partner came to visit for our Valentines celebrations as we won’t see each other on the actual day. We went out for a lovely dinner and I actually really enjoyed getting dressed up to go out. Sunday saw us on the sofa with a bunch of good films! Sunday started off well with a bacon sarnie, cooked by yours truly which was followed by quite literally the day of rest, however, we did cook a lovely dinner together in the evening, consisting of Duck, potatoes and veg. Yum!

Those were the positives of my week, what did you get up too?